First Date DOs and DON'Ts

Okay, so you meet someone, hold a pretty decent conversation, exchange numbers, and then the big day comes up. No, not the wedding, the first date. The first date is almost as nerve-wrecking as an interview. Hell, it is an interview to some degree. It can either go really good or really bad. Now the question remains, what are some of the basic dos and don'ts of a first date? My girl, Veralyn (hey girl!) from SexReally.com had the same question on her mind as well and interviewed her friends to see what are the dreaded deal breakers, rules, and regulations of a first date. Check out her latest SexReally.com V-log!




Now there were definitely some good answers, but of course I have some of my own complete w/ some video examples:

DOs
1. Be clean (I'm a Virgo woman so that really counts w/ me, but I'm sure that counts w/ anybody...Your body odor or breath shouldn't get there 5 minutes before you do)
2. Be polite (I hate when people are vulgar and rude; it'll make me put you in your place)
3. Be honest (if you went to jail, have a kid, whatever, I'd rather you tell me upfront. Don't false advertise!)
4. Be yourself...there's nothing more refreshing than being around a person who's comfortable in their own skin. Besides, it'll give me a chance to see if our personalities complement each other.
5. Hold an intelligent conversation w/ me. Aside from finding out about each other's interests, let me know that you know what's going on around the world.
6. Take me out on an unconventional date...just as long as it's not hiking or has anything to do w/ bugs and rodents
7. Have fun and be funny...who the hell wants someone boring?
8. Bring flowers...try giving me something other than roses like lillies, orchids, tulips, etc.


DON'Ts
1. Like in a movie theater, please don't talk on your cell phone. Point blank, it's real rude. If it's an emergency, just excuse yourself; I'll understand.
2. Please don't talk about sex on the first date because it's a BIG turnoff. Who said you was gonna get some after the check?!

3. Don't monopolize the conversation w/ tales about yourself...if you want to hear yourself talk, go home and leave me out of it.
4. Don't show up drunk or high. You wouldn't do that in a job interview would you?
5. If the date goes well, don't blow up my phone the next day(s) asking me about my whereabouts. Don't be a thirstbucket because I'll purposely ignore you and you'll kill whatever good thoughts I had about you. Everything should be in moderation.
6. Don't come to the date w/ 100 questions regarding my Facebook page...can you say 'stalker'?

These are some of the things that make me tick, but all in all, first dates can either go well or awfully awry. In the end, you'll always have a story to tell your friends!

Relationship With Yourself...and God

After having a very insightful conversation with my father, I realized that we as a people don't necessarily pay enough attention to God; instead we pay attention to other relationships. Now it's a coincidence that it is Sunday, and while I'm no Bible-quoting kind of girl, it's something on my heart and mind so it can't hurt to blog about it a bit (obviously this isn't the 'Sensuality' part of Sense & Sensuality so I'm giving you a heads up before you continue reading). Now when it comes to relationships, God usually comes into the picture when a person prays for a good man or woman to come into his/her life. While that's all well and good, it doesn't do any good if you don't have a relationship with God. That's like asking someone you barely know for a big favor and then you leave them hanging after.

Honestly, having your own relationship with God isn't a bad thing and in my opinion, doesn't require weekly church attendance (although I'm sure God would appreciate it). I think one of the best parts of having a relationship with God is that you find out who you really are: your fears, your strengths, your weaknesses, who in your life means you well, etc. Of course, what comes with this newfound knowledge is doing something about it! For example, you come to the realization that you're a major grudge holder, a trait that is not God-like, then maybe you should take steps to change that. Maybe you've hurt a lot of people in the past by being selfish. The only way you can truly evolve as a person is by having that relationship with the man upstairs. Like a serious relationship with another human being, it is not a one-time thing; it takes work! You may achieve a level of understanding at one point in your life and be fine for a while, but before you know it, there's something else that tests you and you have a new set of struggles within yourself to overcome.

It's not easy, and no one said it was, but it's worth trying to understand. For once, take a step back and think about God as your lifelong guide. He may not reveal everything to you all at once, but that's the point of life...you gotta through it in order for it to be revealed to you.