Sensuality vs. Sexuality: Do You Know the Difference?
Oh yes! There is a difference between sensuality and sexuality. Read more to find out!
Moving Out and Moving On
So you've been thinking about moving on to that next step in life, moving out. Before you sign the lease and pack your bags, here are some useful tips to help you in the process!
What's in a Name? (When Girls Call Each Other Wifey)
Recently, girls are calling their close friends "wifey." Is it a harmless term of endearment or something more?
In the Boardroom: Keep it Simple Stupid!
A resume is your written ticket to an interview. But in trying to make a good impression you want to keep things simple and straight to the point. Check out this post to learn more!
Featured Video: Tabi Bonney featuring Lykke Li "Where We Gonna Go"
This video is off Tabi Bonney's new mixtape, Postcard from Abroad. Dope beats and visuals!
Looking to for a great night out in NYC without spending too much money? Take advantage of New York's Restaurant Week. For those of you not familiar with Restaurant Week, it's where participating restaurants all over the city offer pre-fixed menus for lunch and dinner. Lunch at any of these participating restaurants are $24.07 while dinner is $35.00. Whether you want to taste different cuisines or go to a restaurant you've dying to try, Restaurant Week is sure have something worth sinking your teeth into! Click on the link for more info and a list of participating restaurants. Restaurant Week has been extended to February 27.
During one of my recent conversations with a friend, she mentioned how she was having a hard time finding jobs. Although the job market is still in not as strong as it should be, there are jobs out there. It's just a matter of being crafty with with your search. Below are some helpful websites that I've come across in my job search.
Monster.com This widely popular job search engine is used by many big name companies use Monster as a recruitment tool and the career services (i.e. resume critique/writing, job hunting advice) Monster offers makes them hit with job hunters everywhere.
MediaBistro.com/TalentZoo.com For anyone looking for careers along the lines of media, advertising/marketing/PR, and creative, MediaBistro and TalentZoo are great places to find jobs of various types (project basis, freelance, part-time, full-time). MediaBistro and TalentZoo also give news, events info, and helpful articles on how to make it in the media world.
Glassdoor.com
In addition to posting jobs from many companies, Glassdoor provides company information, CEO approval ratings, anonymous reviews from past and current employees, and even reviews on interviews. I highly recommend using this site when you want to find out some info about the company's culture or how interviews are conducted.
Craigslist.org The one-stop shop for careers of all functions, Craigslist can be a useful tool in one's job search and many reputable organization are using them to post jobs. However, please exercise precaution as there are job scams that plague the site. To combat that, Craigslist has implemented a space for companies to identify themselves to job searchers.
LinkedIn.com This career-oriented social networking site provides people with a community to not only look for jobs but network with past, present, and future employers. You can list your work history, follow companies that you're interested in, and connect to a wide range of professionals in your field.
SimplyHired.com/Indeed.com These job search engines help take the tediousness out of searching for jobs from big name companies and bring the information right to you. In addition to that, these sites also provide salary searches, job trends, and forums to discuss careers.
Twitter.com Although Twitter is used for recreational purposes, many companies have Twitter accounts and tweet open positions. If you have a Twitter account, be sure to follow companies that grab your interest!
These are just several of the many sites that are helpful to people searching for jobs. I'm pretty sure there are more websites out there so if you found them to be great in your job search comment!
If there's one thing everyone can be sure of is that in relationships, there will be an argument or disagreement of some sort; it's a normal part of the relationship. But what is not normal is how those same arguments and the reactions/emotions from them are displayed on a social media billboard for all followers and internet passersby to see. While browsing through my timeline on Twitter, I can't tell you the number of times I've seen someone's emotionally charged tweets and kept reading their timeline like it was a script for a soap opera. But while I'm reading these tweets I can't help but think about two things: 1) Why would anybody want to tweet about how their relationship is hitting a rough patch? and 2) Who actually has the time to tweet in the middle of fighting with their honey or crying about the events that just took place?
I've been told that I'm not an emotional person, but I like to think of it as being choosy about with whom I share my emotions. Me and my honey have had our problems like every other couple, but one thing we've always been clear about is to deal with them together. Other than that, the fight won't be broadcasted on Twitter for our followers to either be concerned, indifferent, or in worse cases amused which brings me to this point: allowing people a front row seat to see your relationship's dirty laundry does more harm than good and it gives people ammunition to assassinate your relationship. It's pretty counterproductive.
In addition to people's voyeurism, I think the reason why many tweet their relationship problems is because of their narcissism. Deep down inside they love the attention that they get from their dramatics; it's like an insecure girl putting herself down because she's really fishing for compliments from a guy. If these attention hungry people didn't get an audience I'm pretty sure they wouldn't have much to tweet about.
Everyone's relationships go through changes, some more than others, but to give everyone a play-by-play of them, it's not a good choice to make. If you are serious about your relationship, then protect it, don't exploit it. Otherwise, you'll be tweeting your relationship death certificate. As for those of you whose timelines are subjected to floods of these kinds of tweets, mute them!
As a kid, I remember watching this Grace Jones video called "I'm Not Perfect." One thing I remember about that song was the catchy chorus that went, "I'm not perfect/ but I'm perfect for you." When I got older, I would sometimes hear people use that phrase when talking about love. Now that I am in a relationship and have been in it for a long while, I can fully understand the meaning behind that phrase.
When searching for a significant other, many people talk about finding the perfect person. Some people will go as far as making up lists or letting little things become relationship deal breakers, but here's the thing: PERFECT PEOPLE DO NOT EXIST. I repeat PERFECT PEOPLE DO NOT EXIST. Instead, your best bet is to find someone that's perfect for you...and yes, there's a difference.
To find someone that's perfect for you simply means, in my opinion, finding key qualities in a mate that would complement yours while understanding and accepting his/her imperfections. In my own relationship, we both understand that while we have many similar qualities that helped us fall in love with each other, we're not perfect in any sense of the word. However, we respect those differences and don't drive each other crazy trying to change each other. That level of respect and understanding shows maturity and growth in the relationship and honestly, our differences are what make the relationship unique and interesting. Now if you happen to have differences that you absolutely can't deal with, then end the relationship. Nobody ever had a great relationship by settling.
So when you're out there searching for that special someone, make sure they're perfect for you. If you're looking for a perfect person, you'll be looking for a long time.
Many recent college graduates such as myself definitely had a hard reality to face once the excitement of graduating wore off. We've spent hours applying to Associates programs, searching for countless full-time jobs and internships on the internet, and ultimately had nothing produce into gainful employment. As we were preparing for graduating and moving back to our hometowns, we were all warned of the job market's treacherous environment we would face, but deep down inside we all thought that some employer would take one look at our resume and shiny new degrees and hire us soon after graduation.For many of us, it didn't quite happen that way and there are still many who refuse to believe that the scenario described will not be something they will experience.
One key factor in anyone's job search is patience. A lot of job hunters seem to think that the hiring process only takes a matter of days when in fact it takes weeks at the very least. There are several things to consider:
1) Although the company is interviewing candidates, they may not have the actual approval for the position, so HR is just simply looking to develop a pipeline of qualified candidates for when the position is considered officially open. Please note that approval can take months or never happen.
2) When managers are gaining approval for jobs, budgets must definitely be discussed. If there's no budget, then there's no job. Unfortunately in these harsh economic times, companies are always looking to find a way to trim their budgets and of course hiring people (especially depending on the career level) is a lot of money when talking about base salary, bonus, and benefits. So while the manager may want to hire a person, if the numbers come back funny, then there's no approval.
3) You are not the only one applying and interviewing for this job. Depending on the company, they are looking for hires internally (current employees looking to advance) as well as externally (laid off experienced workforce and fellow recent grads). Rarely ever do managers interview just one candidate and hire him/her on the spot. When managers are choosing a candidates, they need to be able to compare qualifications, skills, and talents and they can't do that by interviewing one person.
4) Bosses may decide that responsibilities that a potential candidate may have can be taken on and spread out amongst current employees. In this case, the current employees don't win because they have more work piled on and you, the job hunter, don't win because a potential job opportunity is over before it started.
5) The manager may have had a bad experience with a past employee and are extremely cautious about hiring someone and end up taking a while to make a decision.
However, there are some special cases where a company needs to fill a position immediately due to a massive back up of work that needs to be completed. The company will usually post this in the job description by saying they're interviewing within a short time frame and looking to hire ASAP. If you come across a job like that that fits you well, then apply, attend the interview if you're invited, and good luck!
For all other regular time-framed jobs, the best advice is to not be discouraged. Searching for a job in this market is definitely an emotionally taxing process and it's easy to feel like you're not getting anywhere especially if you've been searching for months and you haven't heard back from any company. However, if you've been going on lots of interviews, look at each one as an opportunity to improve your interviewing skills or make yourself more viable to employers.
It's important to be realistic in your job search because if you're not, you'll end up frustrated. It's understandable: you're brimming with fresh ideas and ready to take on the world with your many talents, but you feel like no one has noticed it. But also remember this: you're young and have more time on your side; eventually someone will realize what you have to offer. If you ever feel down about your situation, just think about those out there who have spent years looking for a job, can't provide for their families or themselves and then be thankful for what you have left and toughen up because tough times don't last, tough people do!
Now that the New Year is here, many people are asking the age old question "What's your New Year's Resolution?" Just yesterday, I was asked this question and I responded, "I didn't make any New Year's Resolutions." Following my response, I was told that I'm too young to not have any resolutions and that the New Year should prompt me to self-reflect. While I don't disagree with this theory, I have my own philosophy on making New Year's Resolutions.
Every day there is something new to discover about life. As each day passes, you'll come to experience and witness things that may cause you to self-reflect and make a decision to resolve whatever is going on in your life. This may mean re-evaluating your life, friends, relationships, etc. Whenever that time comes up, I believe in simply making steps to resolve it and continue going on life's journey to growing as a person. A fresh start can be made whenever you decide to make it and fresh starts are made every day.
Now I know that many people use New Year's, spring time, and other dates and occasions to make changes in their lives and that's fine. As long as you make the change, then it's all good. However, if I know there's something in my life I have to change, I rather change it then and there instead of marking down a calendar to do it. Call me a free spirit of sorts, but that's the way I choose to approach life. So to all those calendar markers out there, please respect my approach as I respect yours and let's just enjoy this ride called life.
