Last week, I was having a conversation with a good friend of mine when she asked me about the importance of titles in relationships. I thought about it for a minute and responded that some people place an importance on it while others don't. In my opinion, there's no right or wrong answer to this issue. As the conversation went on, we discussed a common scenario of when a girl isn't too sure of who she is to a guy, but yet and still she calls him pet names worthy of a boyfriend such as boo, baby, etc.
Of course when you're in the 'talking' stage, there's a lot of things that are up in the air including the whole titles issue so there's no need to rush anything. However, if you've been hanging out with dude for a while and you're not sure about whether you're seen as his girlfriend, friend with benefits, or whatever title you think is best suited, then you might want to bring it up if it's bothering you. If you're like some people I know who don't mind, then carry on.
I'd be lying if I said I wasn't in that situation in the past, but over the years I've been able to figure out which relationships are are going to be for a long time and which ones are just for a good time. If I didn't like what was being offered, then I left; it's simple as that. Bottom line: if you're cool with having no titles, let things be. But if you're looking to be someone's girlfriend, make sure both of you are on the same page otherwise you'll be walking around with an empty name tag.
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