Friday, December 31, 2010

New Year's Eve Drink Recipes

Today is New Year's Eve and if you're like many people who will spending it inside, here are some drink recipes to get the good times going! For more recipes, go to or Please remember to drink responsibly and if you're under 21, sorry this post is not for you. Enjoy and have a happy New Year! 

Mojito Recipe 

10 fresh mint leaves 
1/2 lime cut into 4 wedges 
2 tablespoons of white sugar 
1 cup of ice cubes
1 1/2 fl oz. white rum (try Captain Morgan's Original spiced rum) 
1/2 cup club soda 

Place mint leaves and 1 lime wedge into a sturdy glass. Use a muddler to crush the mint and lime to release the mint oils and lime juice. Add 2 more lime wedges and the sugar, and muddle again to release the lime juice. Do not strain the mixture. Fill the glass almost to the top with ice. Pour the rum over the ice, and fill the glass with carbonated water. Stir, taste, and add more sugar if desired. Garnish with the remaining lime wedge.


Godiva Chocolate Martini Recipe 

1 oz. Godiva Original Liqueur
1/4 oz. Ciroc Vodka 

Add both ingredients in martini glass and stir. 


A Pimp Named Slickback Recipe (*this drink is named after The Boondocks character played by Katt Williams) 

1 oz. Triple Sec 
1/2 oz. white rum 
1 oz. lime juice 
1 splash amaretto almond liqueur

Combine all ingredients in a goblet with a sugared rim. Hold up to the light and swirl contemplatively. 


Car Bomb Recipe 

1 oz Bailey's Irish Cream 
1 glass Guinness stout 
1 oz whiskey 

Combine Irish Cream and whiskey in a shot glass. Drop shot into a glass of Guinness and drink quickly. 


                                            Kamakaze Recipe 

                                            1 oz. Triple Sec 
1 oz. Vodka 
1 oz. Lime Juice
1 Lime wedge 

Shake ingredients in a cocktail shaker with ice. Strain into a cocktail glass. Garnish with a lime wedge and stir stick (optional). 

Thursday, December 30, 2010

Hi, My Name Is ___________ and I'm His ______________

Last week, I was having a conversation with a good friend of mine when she asked me about the importance of titles in relationships. I thought about it for a minute and responded that some people place an importance on it while others don't. In my opinion, there's no right or wrong answer to this issue. As the conversation went on, we discussed a common scenario of when a girl isn't too sure of who she is to a guy, but yet and still she calls him pet names worthy of a boyfriend such as boo, baby, etc. 

Of course when you're in the 'talking' stage, there's a lot of things that are up in the air including the whole titles issue so there's no need to rush anything. However, if you've been hanging out with dude for a while and you're not sure about whether you're seen as his girlfriend, friend with benefits, or whatever title you think is best suited, then you might want to bring it up if it's bothering you. If you're like some people I know who don't mind, then carry on. 

I'd be lying if I said I wasn't in that situation in the past, but over the years I've been able to figure out which relationships are are going to be for a long time and which ones are just for a good time. If I didn't like what was being offered, then I left; it's simple as that. Bottom line: if you're cool with having no titles, let things be. But if you're looking to be someone's girlfriend, make sure both of you are on the same page otherwise you'll be walking around with an empty name tag. 

Wednesday, December 29, 2010

Resolve to Be Fiscally Fit

The new year is almost upon us and of course it's the time to reflect on the year and make some plans for the future. Maybe you want to take a vacation next year. Or maybe in your quest for new experiences in the new year you' plan to take up a new activity. Whatever your plans are for the next 12 months, there's always some tips we can learn to cut down on the bills and keep the money in our wallets for the new year.

1. Learn to Keep Score
There is a Nigerian proverb that states, "Not to know is bad. Not to wish to know is worse." In this case, not knowing or not wishing to know your FICO credit score should be a habit you're looking to kick in 2011. In order to be fiscally fit, you must be well informed by obtaining your credit reports from the 3 big credit bureaus: Equifax, Experian, and TransUnion. Every year, you're entitled to one free report per credit bureau by getting them at After you see all your reports, make sure you check for any mistakes; if you overlook a mistake, it can cost you a good credit score that will remain in bad shape for a long time. If your reports are mistake-free, then you can get your FICO score by logging on to Here are some things you should know before getting your FICO score: 1) scores will be varied since they are coming from 3 different credit bureaus, 2) scores range from 500 - 850, with 500 being the worst and 850 being the best, and 3) to get one FICO score it costs $15.95. 
(via Suze Orman, The Money Book for the Young, Fabulous, & Broke

2. Don't Be Late
Speaking of credit card scores, paying your credit card bill late this is one of the top ways to screw up your credit score. You can improve your credit score by paying your credit bill on time. Although you can pay the minimum balance, I would suggest you pay more than that. If you can pay half or even all of the balance, that would be better because if you only pay the minimum balance, it takes a long time to pay off the total balance and you'll end up paying more than what was charged in the first place. As far as when to pay, if you're going to mail your payment, allow at least 5 days before the due date. If you're paying online, allow at least 2 days before the due date. If you have a problem remembering due dates, don't forget to mark it on your calendar, iPhone, Blackberry, or any other device you have. 

3. Pay Yourself 
If you're tired of living from paycheck to paycheck and stretching out your last couple of dollars until the next payday, start paying yourself first. And no, that doesn't mean that you pay yourself by buying those cute pumps in the window display before you pay your rent and utilities. What it means is that before you do anything with your paycheck, put a percentage (10% is recommended) of it towards your savings account. It may seem impossible especially when you have other expenses, but trust me, it works; you just need some discipline. One way you can discipline yourself is using the direct deposit at your company to put a fixed amount into your savings account. That way, you never see the money; out of sight, out of mind. Before you know it, you'll have a healthy savings account. For those of you who may not have a savings account, I highly recommend ING Direct Savings. They're easy to use and you can set up sub accounts for different types of savings like a vacation fund, emergency fund, etc. For more info visit 

4. Live Within Your Means 
I can't tell you how many times I've heard of young women living fabulously yet being fiscally destitute. If you spend all of your money on clothes, shoes, hair, etc. but don't pay your rent on time, then you're doing yourself a major disservice. A way to get yourself back on the right track is to live within your means. There should be a set percentage on how much you spend on expenses. According to Carmen Wong Ulrich of CNBC's On the Money,  30% of your income should be put towards housing, 18% should be put towards transportation, and 14% should be put towards food. As for your other expenses, set those percentages accordingly. If your clothes and other disposable income makes up for much of your living expenses, it's time to scale down. Don't look at this as a setback; your wallet will thank you in the end. In the meantime, be a frugalista and shop around for deals. 

5. Terminate Your Debt 
If you're already drowning in a sea of debt, don't worry. You can trim down that debt. First off, figure out how much debt you actually have by pulling together all your bills that have a balance. Depending on how many outstanding balances you have, you might want to keep track of them by creating an Excel spreadsheet with all the info you need to have on hand. After totaling up your debt, figure out how long it would be for you to pay it back. I would suggest you go to and use it to help you calculate when you'll be out debt. From there, you can put a strategy in place to get rid of the debt.You can either attack the high balances or high interest fees first or start with the lowest balances and fees. 

Monday, September 20, 2010

Chivalry: Is It DOA or on Life Support?

In college, one of my male friends would always point out that I never allowed him to open the door for me when we would leave or go to class. When I first started dating my boyfriend, I thought it was foreign that he would carry my luggage when I came to visit for the weekend. I would always tell them "don't worry, I got it" as if it was as simple as picking up the check for dinner. Then one day that same friend asked me why did I insist on not letting him be a gentleman and then I realized something: chivalry isn't laying in a casket six feet under with a death certificate dating back to many decades ago. It was that question that sparked a whole bunch of other questions in my mind like when did we as women stop thinking that men should be gentlemen and do courteous things for us? When did our expectations and standards stoop to a new low? Where are all the chivalrous men at? How and when did the mothers and/or fathers teach (or not teach) their boys the importance of being a chivalrous man?

The only we can ever bring chivalry back to life fully is if we make it a part of our norm. As it stands right now, chivalry is foreign to a lot of people my age. All that means is that it's not something that's widely taught or something that is widely expected. As a female, we should expect chivalry from men. Now keep in mind that even if we do change our mind frame that not everyone will be receptive to this, but don't worry: they're just not up to the challenge. But make make chivalry part of your standards and slowly but surely we can bring it back to life.

Yo! Let Me Talk to You!

Psst. Ay Ma! Ay ma with the jacket on! Let me talk to you! Yo sexy, yo gorgeous! You know you hear me talking to you!

Those are just a few of the many ridiculous things that are shouted out at women on a daily basis. Matter of fact, seeing these cat calls in writing make them look even more ridiculous. I never could understand why some (not all) men feel the need to get a woman's attention like that. Despite all of this, according to male friend of mine, even the most polite way to start a conversation with a females gets the same brush off as the offensive. I think it's safe to say we've successfully confused men...once again.

Ladies, why is that when a man says, "excuse me, can I speak to you for a minute..." or something equally as polite we get all offended as if the guy said, "ay b***h let me holla at you real quick!"? As a friend of mine once told me, "I'm polite to y'all and I still get the n***a please look." With that being said, I found some videos and ladies think about which way you would like to be approached. But I will say you probably don't want to be approached like this:

....or like this (shouts to Kim on this one! lol)

Monday, August 16, 2010

The Princess Syndrome

Usually when girls have fathers or father figures in their lives, they're often given the title of "princess." That wasn't the case for me growing up. Although I did have my father in my life and still do, never once did he call me "princess" or treat me that way in some respects. While I knew I was his little girl, I understood why he didn't treat me as such. He said that he didn't want me to turn out out being a demanding woman who couldn't do for herself later in life. However, I did grow up around and even lived with females that were like this and that was a personal hell for me. I vowed to do all I could not to become that. These girls I'm talking about have the Princess Syndrome, a disease where girls who take the title of princess and pump it up on steroids. Now that I am older, I see how girls with this sickness are one of the most easily annoying creatures walking the earth. If you don't know if you or a loved one has this syndrome, please read the following symptoms as this is spreading at an alarming rate.

1. DIY (do it yourself) is not in their vocabulary
These girls would rather enlist the help of others than do it themselves. This can range from homework, cleaning, work, etc. They are physically and mentally capable to do these things, but they feel as if it's either too complicated or too beneath them to do it. Heaven forbid they break a nail or something! (*rolls eyes)

2. *Sings* I know you like to think your .... don't stank
Besides "Roses" by OutKast being one of my favorite songs from them, Princess Syndrome girls are famous for thinking that their ish don't stink and that they're better than everyone else.

3. Have dollars but no sense
A determining factor in the development of the princess syndrome is material possessions. Princess Syndrome girls usually get money from a male figure, usually a father, but keep in mind that this can be a boyfriend or just some dude that's trickin' off the afflicted girl. Despite them having loads of material possessions and cash, Princess Syndrome girls don't know the value of a dollar and don't save because they rather use the money to have latest stuff. All they know to do is have their hand out for money.

4. It's their way or no way
Another major symptom to this horrible disease is the excessive demands these Princess Syndrome girls make. These demands only accommodate them; as for everyone else, it's a complete headache to try and make these girls happy. Take a look at this video and you'll get exactly what I mean.

As a female, it's been ingrained in us at an early age to think of ourselves as princesses and to be treated as such. Unfortunately, I think the term has been blown out of proportion and that's what causes girls to have this sense of entitlement about them. While it's true that girls should be treated like princesses, it doesn't give them the right to treat everyone else like their royal subjects. My philosophy is know that you're royal but work and have the humility of a pauper. So for all the self-proclaimed princesses out there, y'all can have that...I'm too busy working for my queendom.

Sunday, July 25, 2010

Recipes for Your One and Only

They say a way to a man’s heart is through his stomach…they were absolutely right. I’m compiling a list of delicious (and easy) dinner recipes that will be sure to keep him wanting more! If you have any more suggestions, please post them in the comment section!

Lasagna (serves 8)
1 pound lean ground beef
1 onion, chopped
1 (4.5 ounce) can mushrooms, drained (* this ingredient is optional)
1 (28 ounce) jar spaghetti sauce
1 (16 ounce) package cottage cheese
1 pint part-skim ricotta cheese
¼ cup grated Parmesan cheese
2 eggs
1 (16 ounce) package lasagna noodles
8 ounces shredded mozzarella cheese
1. In a large skillet, cook and stir ground beef until brown. Add mushrooms and onions; sauté until onions are transparent. Stir in pasta sauce, and heat through.
2. In a medium size bowl, combine cottage cheese, ricotta cheese, grated Parmesan cheese, and eggs.
3. Spread a thin layer of the meat sauce in the bottom of a 13x9 inch pan. Layer with uncooked lasagna noodles, cheese mixture, mozzarella cheese, and meat sauce. Continue layering until all ingredients are used, reserving 1/2 cup mozzarella. Cover pan with aluminum foil.
4. Bake in a preheated 350 degree F (175 degree C) oven for 45 minutes. Uncover, and top with remaining half cup of mozzarella cheese. Bake for an additional 15 minutes. Remove from oven, and let stand 10 to 15 minutes before serving.
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Note: A good side dish for lasagna is garlic bread and/or salad.

Salmon with Butter Sauce

2 salmon fillets, skin intact
2 lemons, thinly sliced
1/2 c. olive oil
2 lg. garlic cloves, minced
2 tb. butter
2 tb. diced onion
2 tb. parsley
2 oz. White wine (cooking wine)

Directions for the fish
1. Preheat the oven to 400 degrees.
2. Rinse the salmon fillets and pat dry.
3. Line a baking sheet with aluminum foil and arrange 3 quarters of the onions and lemons on top.
4. Arrange fillets, skin side down on top.
5. Mix the olive oil and garlic; brush liberally over the fish.
6. Fold over the edges of the foil to seal in the fish and bake in the preheated oven for 35-40 minutes, or until the fish flakes when touched with a fork.

Directions for the butter sauce
In 10" saute pan, melt butter

Into saute pan add diced onion, lemon juice, chopped parsley, salt and pepper and white wine.
Reduce liquid a little, then swirl pan and add 2 tablespoons butter (to form a light sauce).
Place salmon on plate, put sauce over the top of salmon.

Note: A good side dish is whatever vegetable you choose.

Sirloin Steak with Garlic Butter
1/2 cup butter
2 teaspoons garlic powder
4 cloves garlic, minced
4 pounds beef top sirloin steaks
salt and pepper to taste
1. Preheat an outdoor grill for high heat.
2. In a small saucepan, melt butter over medium-low heat with garlic powder and minced garlic. Set aside.
3. Sprinkle both sides of each steak with salt and pepper.
4. Grill steaks 4 to 5 minutes per side, or to desired doneness. When done, transfer to warmed plates.
5. Brush tops liberally with garlic butter, and allow to rest for 2 to 3 minutes before serving.
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Note: A good side dish is baked potato (butter, sour cream, or bacon bits can be using for a topping)
Chicken Alfredo
(serves 8)
1 pound fettuccini pasta
1 ½ cups butter, divided
1 pound skinless, boneless chicken breast halves - cut into cubes
2 (16 ounce) containers whole milk ricotta cheese
1 pint heavy cream (* found in the dairy section of your grocery)
1 teaspoon salt
1 cup grated Parmesan cheese
Bring a large pot of lightly salted water to a boil. Add fettuccini and cook for 8 to 10 minutes or until al dente; drain.
Melt 2 tablespoons butter in a large skillet over medium heat. Saute chicken until no longer pink and juices run clear.
In a large saucepan combine ricotta cheese, cream, salt, Parmesan cheese and remaining butter. Cook over medium heat until well combined, about 10 minutes. Stir in cooked fettuccini and chicken; cook until heated through.
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Side Dishes
Baked Macaroni & Cheese
1 (12 ounce) package macaroni
1 egg
2 cups milk
2 tablespoons butter, melted
2 ½ cups shredded Cheddar cheese
salt and pepper to taste

1. Preheat the oven to 350 degrees F (175 degrees C). Lightly grease a 2-quart baking dish.
2. In a large pot of salted water, lightly boil the macaroni for about 5 minutes until half-cooked.
3. Whisk the egg and milk together in a large cup. Add butter and cheese to the egg and milk. Stir well.
4. Place the lightly cooked macaroni in the prepared baking dish. Pour the egg and cheese liquid over the macaroni, sprinkle with salt and pepper, and stir well. Press the mixture evenly around the baking dish.
5. Bake uncovered, for 30 to 40 minutes, or until the top is brown.
Cornbread (From Scratch)
1 1/3 cup all-purpose flour
1 1/3 cup yellow or white corn meal
2 teaspoons baking powder
3/4 teaspoon baking soda
1 teaspoon salt
1 1/3 cup buttermilk
1/2 cup unsalted butter, melted
2 large eggs, beaten
1. Preheat oven to 375 degrees. Butter or oil a 9" baking pan, set aside.
2. Sift flour, corn meal, baking soda, baking powder and salt together.
3. Whisk together the buttermilk, melted butter and the eggs. Add the dry ingredients to the liquid and stir just to blend.
4. Pour the batter into the prepared pan and bake until golden brown around the edges, about 30 minutes or until tester (use a toothpick) inserted into the middle of the bread comes out clean.
5. Cool in the pan on a rack for a few minutes then cut into squares.
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Rice & Blacked Eyed Peas


1 quart water
½ cup soy sauce
1 teaspoon season salt
½ teaspoon garlic powder
½ teaspoon curry powder
8 ounces black-eyed peas, cooked
About 1 ½ to 2 cups raw rice


1. Combine water, say sauce, salt garlic powder, curry powder and cooked peas.
2. Add rice by pouring it into the center of the pot until it reaches the top of the water line-NO MORE.
3. Stir well and cover. Continue cooking on a medium to low flame until rice is fluffy and cooked through.
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Sweet Potato Cupcakes
1 cup butter
2 cups sugar
2 cups mashed sweet potato (from can or roast your own and then puree or mash)
2 tsp vanilla extract
4 eggs
3 cups flour (sifted)
2 tsp baking powder
1 tsp cinnamon
1/2 tsp nutmeg

1. Preheat oven to 350 line cupcake trays with paper or lightly grease
2. In mixer add butter and sugar and cream on low for about 10 minute. To that add each egg, one at a time.
3. Add vanilla, cinnamon, nutmeg, baking powder. Alternate one scoop sweet potato and one scoop of flour to the mixer until it's all been blended in.
4. Using ice cream scooper, scoop batter into cupcake pan filling about 3/4 the way up. Bake 20-30 minutes, test with a toothpick (insert into cupcake and if toothpick comes out clean, cupcakes are ready).
5. Cool and frost or slice open and serve with caramel sauce and ice cream.
Banana Pudding


1 box of Nilla Wafer cookies
6 to 8 bananas, sliced
2 cups milk
1 (5-ounce) box instant French vanilla pudding
1 (8-ounce) package cream cheese, softened
1 (14-ounce) can sweetened condensed milk
1 (12-ounce) container frozen whipped topping thawed, or equal amount sweetened whipped cream


1. Line the bottom of a 13 by 9 by 2-inch dish with 1 bag of cookies and layer bananas on top.

2. In a bowl, combine the milk and pudding mix and blend well using a handheld electric mixer.

3. Using another bowl, combine the cream cheese and condensed milk together and mix until smooth.

4. Fold the whipped topping into the cream cheese mixture.

5. Add the cream cheese mixture to the pudding mixture and stir until well blended.

6. Pour the mixture over the cookies and bananas and cover with the remaining cookies.

7. Refrigerate until ready to serve.

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